January 8, 2008

Gimme my Tiffany's back!!

Wow I didn't know there were actual laws behind Engagement Rings. If a couple breaks off their engagement, according to which state you are in, you could be required by law to return the ring to the man who got down on one knee. CNN says " Engagement rings fall under property, contract or family law, and how they are treated varies by state." Lets hear a few examples..

In Cali- its based on who broke off the engagement. So if the girl gets cold feet, she's going to get a cold hand too (with NO ICE on it b/c she has to give it back).

In NY, TN, and a few other states- the ring is a "conditional gift" which goes back to the gift giver if the marriage does not occur.

Kansas & Montana are "anti indian giver" states. Once a gift is given. Its gone!

Even the date you propose comes into play with these laws. If its on a holiday (like her birthday, or Vday.. or Christmas), its just a gift, not a binding contract.In most cases (I Hope!), couples are able to decide amicably who keeps the ring. If they have respect for each other and realize that marriage isn't in the cards for them, they do what feels right...

What do you think?

I think if the guy offers the girl to keep it, she should.. unless either party was a cheating whore, then its a toss up.. Let's hear it!

Update: The more I think about it, the more I think its kind sad to keep the ring. Aka Charlotte from SATC walking around her Park Avenue mansion wearing her pretty ring representing an ever sadder engagement/marriage. I guess giving the ring back brings closure to the whole situation. But so does turning it into a necklace, or pawning it and going to Mexico. tehehehehe

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14 comments:

Maxie said...

I think it really depends on the situation... but if a lot of money has already been spent by the bride on the wedding..and the groom calls it off I say keep it!

nicoleantoinette said...

I agree with Maxie, it totally depends on the situation and the timing of the broken engagement.

I think that no matter what, I'd feel better giving the ring back. Unless he did something disgustingly terrible.

Jamie Lovely said...

I agree with Nicole. I'd probably have to give it back, unless there was some disgusting terribleness involved!

P.S. I thought I read somewhere that Heidi's ring was fake and you can buy it online for like way cheap. What a douche.

Virginia said...

I agree with everyone so far too! If the guy did something heinous, I have no problem selling the ring and going to the Bahamas for a while. If it was an amicable split, I feel like returning the ring to the guy would be appropriate. Then any wedding costs can be split.

Susie said...

I wouldn't want to keep my ring if the engagement was called off. However, it was a gift, and if he was a complete a-hole, I wouldn't want to give it back. But if I called the engagement off or it was mutual, I would def. give it back.

I had nooo idea there were laws about this either!

Sarah said...

I agree that it's situational. Ultimately, I think thee guy should get the ring back, unless he was a cheating bastard.

Mrs. D said...

I guess I'd say give it back unless for some reason it's the guy's fault the marriage doesn't happen and then the girl should totally get to keep it!

brandy said...

I think I would give it back regardless. It was meant as a symbol of being married. If I'm not getting married and kept the ring... I don't know. I think I would just feel really sad about it.

However.

If my groom turned out to be a lily livered cheating punk? Yeah. I think I would sell the ring and go party in Mexico.

Katelin said...

Granted it's already been said...I think it would have to depend on the circumstances of the break up. Even though I don't know if I'd want to keep it to remind me like you said, but I could pawn it perhaps. But that's sad too. Let's just hope I never have to return an engagement ring.

Michelle said...

i would be hard giving it back because of sentimental value i'm sure. i'm not sure what i would do. but if the bastard cheated on me - he's not getting it back that's for sure!! ;)

Kay said...

paris' ring is crazy ridiculous. too gaudy. blech, now if it were a cocktail ring worn on the right hand, it would be much nicer

R said...

I'm of the give it back club. Especially if you're the chick who broke it off. Let the poor guy get some of his scratch back. Unless there are whores...that changes things. ;)

willikat said...

i'd probably give it back. after all, every time i wore it i'd just feel bad. even if i made it into something else. i'd still remember where it came from. or...i could sell it and buy something i really wanted!

it's saundra, event engineer said...

i wrote about this on my blog; there are laws for this sorta thing.

personally, i'd give it back. but he'd have to swim deep for it in the ohio river. kwim?