January 15, 2008

Where. was. this. party?

So there I am, catching up with the Today Show online. (darn job, only lets me watch Matt Lauer until about 7:30am!) I click on the Ask Dr. Gail Saltz page because I heart her and am nosy and love other people's business.

Well, this concerned wife wrote in about her husband, who after 23 yrs of marriage, gets wasted and usually acts like an idiot at parties while flirting with women. HA, my interest has sparked.

Here's the best part [except from The Today Show]:

On New Year’s Eve, we had dinner with about 15 old friends. We had talked through how we wanted the evening to go. He was doing well and was not drinking because he would be driving home. Toward the end of the evening, someone decided we would play a game that involved a female being blindfolded and picking a male name out of a hat, and then rolling dice so the winning body part would be massaged by the male. She then had to guess his identity.

Eventually my husband and my best friend got picked. [jq says "Of course they do!!"] The dice rolled and the body part was her breasts. I was uncomfortable, jealous, angry and humiliated, but I managed to keep it together. My friend seemed to take forever to guess. I have been so extremely upset with both of them — angry with my husband and betrayed by my friend.

My husband realizes how much he has hurt me, but claims he felt he had to perform. My friend says it was just part of the game. In the past, she has confided that she does see other men, although outwardly she is happily married. Whereas I am fairly certain that nothing is going on between them, I cannot seem to get over this. I think about it most of the time and it is making me ill. I am hurting so much, but I feel I have made a mountain out of a molehill and the consequences will cause issues in our circle of friends. What can I do to get over this?Dr Saltz gave her a lot of good advice here. But the big part was "maybe you shouldn't have played the game in the first place!!!"

Now if Dr Julie Q had her own Today Show advice column, I would have whacked this lady in the head and said "Should've had a V8!". Then I would've asked why the hell did you allow your husband to play in that game!

Maybe I'm old fashioned, but I'd have a slight problem with a game like that. Am I crazy? No fun? Boring and insecure? Is this normal these days? Is it okay because they were older and most of them were probably married for a long ass time and liked to spark things up? Anyone agree with this?

Yuck, who'd want your old neighbor touching you while you were blindfolded. I think I just threw up in my mouth. But hell, if all of them were cool with it (which obviously- that one lady was not), more power to them!

I can only wait to see what kind of readers will google that and come to my blog now! haaa. I'm gonna go play monopoly. a game that SHOULD be played at parties.

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17 comments:

Maxie said...

That's insane that she would let him participate. no way in hell!

Andrea said...

HELL NO! I would NEVER be ok with playing a game like this. My question is, maybe a lot of them have "open marriages" so it was ok for most of them, she just wasn't in on the joke. Other than that, i don't freaking get it!

Lisa G said...

HOW old are they??? This is something 16 year old boys would be into, not grown adults. Seriously what kind of people play games like that at parties? Swingers.

Maybe they were trying to bring her into the "lifestyle."

Virginia said...

WHAT?! Are they a bunch of 50-something swingers? That is a ridiculous game. A game married people should not play. Catch Phrase, on the other hand, now that is a good clean fun party game.

Marriage-101 said...

Yeah it's idiotic that they would even participate. My hubby would say "no way!" Of course, if I had hotter friends.... :)

Lacey Bean said...

Ewwwww. That game would SO not be allowed.

Liene at Blue Orchid Designs said...

SO GROSS!!

Susie said...

umm wtf. was this woman just sitting and watching? I really don't get people sometimes! It's really sad, but she totally brought it on herself.

I agree with Virginia, Catch Phrase is the way to go...for kids and adults!

freeandflawed said...

I like your advice. Smack her!

I'm not married, but if my boyfriend and I were involved in a game like this, I'd punch the person who thought it up. In the eye. With my shoe. A stiletto.

Idiots.

Sarah said...

What? No! I am so creeped out right now, I'm totally naseous. Unacceptable old pervy people. Unacceptable.

Katelin said...

Wow. That game is a little ridiculous, especially for married couples to be playing.

I love your V8 comment, I think I laughed out loud, haha.

brandy said...

Um, I have to say that my favourite part is that it took her friend 'forever' to guess. For some reason, that just cracks me up.

nicoleantoinette said...

Ugh, should have had a V8 indeed.

LBIC said...

Yeah, I'm not for playing that game, especially if I were married. I mean, hello, you've got to massage body parts! You're right, she should've had a V8 lol

Nanette said...

That's a negative on that game, ghostrider. Nope. No way. No how.

R said...

Nope. Not old, boring, etc. That game is no bueno.

alexgirl said...

You're hilarious. I love this post.
Spin the Bottle should only be played by high school and college kids. At the very least: only single people.
Spin the bottle with married couples can only lead to "Swingers parties" and that is fuh-reaky!