January 2, 2009

We will miss that Laugh

I won't talk about the sad Christmas Eve we had when my mom got that phone call during our Christmas Eve Party with the tragic news that her sweetheart had just been taken away in a car accident in Vermont, where he lived. He had called my mom a little while before heading out to his daughter's Christmas Eve Party just to say hello and ended the call with their usual "I Love You, Goodbye".

I would like to mention

...after a sad, tough, long night, we managed to gather together for a family Christmas, because he would want mom to be around the people she loved if he could not be there.

...my husband didn't even blink when I told him the morning after Christmas to pack his bags because we'd be traveling to Vermont and staying at our cabin for who knows how long, to support my mom and also say goodbye to one of the sweetest men we've come to know over the past 6 years.

...that drive up to Vermont. Me and my mom in her car, with Gus and the dogs following behind.

rocco and lexie with a small case of cabin fever.

...Pauls family consisting of his 2 loving parents, 2 beautiful and strong children, a charming son-in-law, 9 kind brothers and sisters, and many many nieces and nephews, who all came together for support to grieve and also celebrate the life of their beloved Paul.

walking my mom down the aisle at my wedding. Looking very handsome in a tux!

...how strong my mom is. She's been through a lot and is such a tough cookie. They loved each other very very much and she could not wait for almost every weekend to go up to Vermont, as well as spending her summer breaks there where Rocco accompanied her every time.

...the beautiful pictures that mom had taken of Paul especially within the last year or so. They looked so nice with all of the ones his family had gathered to reflect his time here on earth.

...Rocco's mentioning in his obituary as his beloved faithful 4 legged friend.

...the owner of the Tavern talking about how he'd like to change the menu so that it's Pauls Chicken Alfredo (one of the BEST dishes ever- and one that Paul always recommended)

...the 1,200 or so people who came to the Visiting Hours to pay their respects to a great man. Three of those being my brother, and two of my moms good friends from home, which was so sweet and meant a lot to mom.

...the beautiful ceremony during the funeral, filled with gorgeous flowers, Christmas Trees, speeches that made you cry along with ones that made you laugh.

...that my mom said Paul would have gotten a kick out of knowing that me and Gus attended quite the interesting NYE Party in Vermont with her.

oh. dear.

Let's just say there were over 15 deer heads on the wall throughout their living room and all I could think of was how my dogs would have barked SO MUCH if they had come with us..Lexie turned into quite the outdoors-women after this week!

After going through such a long week filled with a lot of love, getting to know a wonderful close knit family, a lot of tears and a lot of great stories told, I wish you could just turn the clock back and say "Alright! Now you know what it would have been like if...." and go on from there. But unfortunately its not the case, and we pick up the pieces and move forward. Make sure you don't take for granted the ones you love and tell your loved ones you love them. Please think some nice thoughts for our Paul, who I think was my mom's guardian angel.

Hope everyone had a safe and Happy New Years.

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23 comments:

Jessica said...

Wow.. I'm so sorry! It just this one post, Paul sounds like such a great man. It seems like he's left everyone with a ton of good memories and I'm sure they will be cherished. I send tons of prayers going your moms way for comfort and strength.

brookem said...

im so, so sorry julie.

Lacey Bean said...

I am so, so sorry for your loss. But I am glad that you have so many nice things to remember about him.

WeezerMonkey said...

My heart goes out to you and your family. So sorry to hear. This was a beautiful post.

willikat said...

Wow, a loving and beautiful tribute to a man who clearly made a BIG impact on a lot of people. I am so, so, so sorry to hear of your/your mom's loss. Sometimes life isn't fair, is it?
Lots of love to you during this time.
And, he may have been your mom's guardian angel here on earth, but he probably has superpowers from heaven.

Brandy said...

Oh Miss Julie, I'm so sorry for you and yours.

KT said...

omg i'm so sorry, jules. that's awful. my deepest condolences. xoxo.

emrlds said...

oh hun, i am so sorry. i can only imagine what a tough week it has been but rest assured that he lived a good life and was surrounded by so much love. my thoughts are with you and the family. xo

Hillary said...

I'm so, so sorry for the loss of Paul. This was a beautiful post, for an obviously beautiful life. I'm glad that your mom has you to help her through this horrible time.

Yummy Mummy said...

He sounds like he was a really great man. I'm so sorry for your loss. This was a beautiful post.

Miss Gallery Place said...

i'm so sorry for you and your family - he sounds like he was a great man.

*many hugs* <3

Matt said...

That was gorgeous Julie. I love you so much. Let's get together soon, yes?

Andréa said...

So sorry for you loss Julie! I am sure he is in a better place and I am sure he is an even better gaurdian angel for your mom!!

Susie said...

I'm so sorry :( You wrote that really beautifully and I'll be thinking of you and your mom.

Golightly said...

He sounds like he was a wonderful and great man. I'm so sorry for your mom's and your loss.

eperry said...

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. You're such a great daughter for sticking by your mom during such a difficult time. I hope your memories of Paul help get you through the tough days.

Sarah said...

I'm very sorry to hear that. My thoughts are with you and your family.

Julie Q said...

Thank you everyone for your well wishes, its so nice to have the extra support

Katelin said...

aw julie i'm so sorry to read this. paul sounds like he was one amazing guy and it's awesome you were all able to get together to celebrate his life :)

susan said...

That was beautifully written, Julie. I am so sorry for your loss, you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

debbieQ said...

Julia,

Your lovely post was so unexpected. I just logged on and am wearing Paul's red Woolrich chamois shirt that I of course gave him. It smells like smoke...but the smoke is oddly comforting and I will wear this shirt for I don't know how long...

Your tribute was so heartfelt and genuine. You were my angel all last week, both you and Gus. Thank you for how you welcomed my Paulie into your life and heart. I was so very, very lucky to have been loved and adored by such a genuinely good human being with such a big, open heart for my own little broken one at the time...
The family all sent their regards to you, Gus and Matt when I left today...
Thanks to all of your buddies for their kind words to all of us as well. Yes I am lucky to have you as my "support", you did really a good thing for your very sad and tired old mom...

Larissa said...

That is so awful. My thoughts are with you and your family.

R said...

JQ! I'm so sorry for your loss. You made me teary and my heart ached for your mom. I really hope you are all able to pick up the pieces but never forget the warmth and love Paul appears to have put in to your life. Big hugs for you and Momma Q.